My spouse has a sign in our home "Marriage is more than finding the right person. It is being the right person" We learned from Erik in The Phoenix Project that the relationship between the business and IT is much like a dysfunctional marriage. In this short talk I'll outline some of the key characteristics we apply through the path of growing and maintaining a healthy relationship, mistakes we can avoid, and behaviors we can nurture. We'll take some time to think a little less about our own needs and get to understand better what we can be doing to be the right person for our counterparts in this crazy world we call DevOps.